5 YEARS!
Five years ago, on March 7th, we were sealed for time and all eternity in the Orlando, FL temple. I remember feeling excited and nervous. Tears were just below the surface until the ceremony and then I couldn't hold back anymore. It was our big day and all the emotions that follow a big decision came at me all at once. Chris became my best friend when we were dating, which is one of the reasons I chose to marry him. I felt peace as soon as I looked at him. When all the emotions rattled me, I knew I could look at him and feel better. It was the same peace I felt so many other times when we were dating. Not only did I think he was hilarious, good looking, and charming, but the way he made me feel loved was my favorite. And still is. Our time dating was short and our engagement was even shorter but it was all the time we needed to make the decision to get married. Best decision I've ever made.
Five Years doesn't sound like a lot of time but a lot has happened in five years. When we were engaged we decided to wait a year before having kids. Chris was a few months from graduating and we didn't know where or if he would have a job after graduation. He interned at an engineering firm in AZ his final 2 years of school but the economy wasn't great at that time and we weren't sure if they would keep him. Well, a month after we got married we changed our minds about waiting to have kids and I was pregnant right away. We were inspired to make that decision and have been blessed ever since. Chris was hired on and transferred to CA for work. He's from CA, so it was great to move closer to some of his family and friends. Soon after that, LiIa was born and we became parents for the first time. I know Heavenly Father loves me because not only did He lead me to Chris, but He sent me Lila. We were giddy as new parents. Also, exhausted, overwhelmed, and unknowing but we felt happy and fulfilled with our precious baby.
I can still visualize us, living in our tiny, old, one bedroom apartment as newly weds. We were happy to be on our own. I remember making dinner for us and having it ready when Chris got home from work. Now a days, Chris does most of the cooking. It's crazy how things change. Soon after Lila was born, we were transferred to NE. With the cost of living being so high in CA, we felt rich just by moving to NE, where the cost of living was a lot less. We upgraded to a spacious, new, 2 bedroom apartment and paid less rent. With more living space and money, why not have another kid? We knew we wanted more kids and we decided we would have them close together. Turns out Heavenly Father agreed with us and Calvin was born 15 months after Lila. Calvin being a boy was not the only difference between him and Lila. He came out screaming and he's still a force to be reckoned with. Good-time Calvin has never been boring. We were thrilled to have another baby but being a mother of 2, small children was not an easy adjustment for me. At the same time Chris was getting tired of his job and decided to get a new one. In SC. When Calvin was 6 weeks old. Yeah, we like to keep things interesting. I was beginning to wonder if every time we had a baby we would move shortly after just to keep me on my toes. Because having a baby isn't enough, right? Since moving to SC we've purchased our first home and have made so many memories. Including, having Emmett 17 months after Calvin and having Graham, 15 1/2 months after Emmett. Emmett has been a mix of Lila's sweetness and Calvin's fun energy. Graham is a cute, sweet baby. I finally have my house full of kids. Just like I've always wanted. I now realize that Bill Cosby was right. The kids think they are in charge and maybe they are. I can't tell sometimes.
Our days with small children will come to an end someday and I know I will wonder how it all happened so fast. I lived through it all but sometimes I can't believe we have 4 children and I drive a mini-van full of car seats. It wasn't that long ago, that I was in a car by myself, listening to the loud radio while singing a long on my way to meet friends for dinner. Oh and it was probably past 6 o'clock. These days we're on lock down starting at 5pm. It's the life we chose and I love it. Anniversaries always make me reflect on the previous years. Chris and I tend to have the same discussion on our anniversary. We talk about the things I've mentioned above and how we never would have guessed this is what our life would be like. How could we have known? A lot of what we planned has happened but there's so much more that has happened that Heavenly Father blessed us with. Our life together has been better than I could have imagined. Sure, with good also comes, not so good. But I'll take it, all of it. I'll take Chris and his piles of clothes on the floor as long as I also get Chris with his hugs/kisses, sense of humor, amazing gift-giving, cooking/baking, love for me and his children and so much more. Not in that order. These past five years have brought us so much joy and we look forward to much more.
Here's pics of us then
and now.
To celebrate we spent a night out laughing with Jerry Seinfeld. See, I told you he was an amazing gift-giver.
Happy Anniversary to us!